“Note” Are you aware there are people who will hurt you and their are so manipulative to look nice to everybody ,they will cause you pain and they are the ones who we call kind and nice ,they will come out and they and they are the ones greeting everybody and you who really love people now you are venting and bleeding nobody believes you are kind ,you are taking it too far, they have affected the past they’ve done strange things to you and messed up your mind ,don’t give them the chance or opportunity to also affect your future.
Manipulation
Manipulation is when people can lie, cheat or treat you badly and somehow manage to make it all your fault they are like emotional illusionist ,making you believe that black is white and up is down they will twist reality distort facts and expertly spin a web of deceit that leaves you questioning your own sanity .
Manipulators are unfair and always their focus is on their interests, they are looking for advantage for themselves even when they lead to huge disadvantages for others.
- Guilty: They make you feel guilty all the time. Manipulators often use guilt to control others. If you constantly feel guilty or responsible for someone else’s action or emotions it may be a sign of manipulation.
- Gas lighting: this involves making you doubt your own thoughts feelings or memories if you find yourself questioning reality or feeling confused about events it might be a form of manipulation
- Victim: they always play the victim, manipulators may portray themselves as victim to gain sympathy and control if the person constantly blames others for their problems and avoids taking responsibility, and it’s a red flag.
- Criticize: they find every reason to criticize you manipulators may use constant criticism to break down your confidence, if you feel like nothing you do is ever good enough it could be a tactic to control and manipulate.
- They go to great lengths to isolate: you manipulators may try to isolate you from friends and family to increase their control. If someone actively discourages or prevents you from spending time with loved ones it’s a concerning sign.
- Emotions: playing on your emotions in order to influence your decisions i.e. I’ll be devastated if you don’t lend me this money for this emergency, you don’t want to see me suffer do you.
- Vulnerability: pretending to vulnerable in order to take advantage of you empathy and get what they want from you i.e. I’ve had such a brutal year I don’t know if I’ll survive without your help.
- Cheating: he/she will cheat on you and makes it seem like you are the reason he’s cheating trying to put talks, blame and point out his reasons for his action i.e.
- you don’t give it to me whenever I ask for it
- you are always busy with works you don’t give me attentions
- not being available for him/her .etc
- Smooth talker: this the process whereby he /she lives by the principle of deny, deny ,even if you got evidence it will still be denied and if you accuse them of being manipulative they are going to deny it to them are good at lying .
- Twisting the fact: manipulators are twisting the facts so much that we even develop doubts about where we were previously safe .the technique of re framing is in the their toolbox, and they know to been the reality in their interest
- Authenticity: manipulators know what we want to hear or what makes uses do what they want. It usually takes some time to realize that manipulators are untrustworthy, they do not walk the talk. Statements and actual behavior do not match, honest peoples, promises are sacred .Manipulators only know their interests.
